I hear so many women say that romance is dead, or that their partner is just not romantic enough, all because they have these, pardon the pun, romanticized ideas of how it is supposed to be. Wake up, ladies. Romance is not like the movies. Nor should it be. While champagne and roses may be nice, they are not the only way someone can show they care. Oh, your spouse doesn't write you love songs, and sing them to you on a candlelit balcony? For shame! You should really hold out for that Romeo that MUST be out there somewhere. It's time to get real, gals. Most men don't think like that. That's just not how they're wired. That doesn't mean your husband or boyfriend doesn't love you, it just means he probably shows it in more subtle ways. Here are some examples of everyday romance that you are probably overlooking:
*He starts the coffee, so it's ready when you wake up.
*He works hard, so that you can have a nice home, car, etc.
*He holds the door for you, and carries your purse & shopping bags at the mall.
*He pulls up to the door when it's raining so you can get out, and then goes and parks the car.
*He starts and/or cleans off your car in the winter.
*He fixes your car, and keeps it running safely and smoothly.
*He lets you tuck your freezing cold feet under him.
*He holds your hand.
*He comes home to you every night, and probably looks forward to it, even though he doesn't say it.
*He remembers what you order at restaurants.
*He smiles at you from across a room.
*He lets you cover the bed and sofa in throw pillows, even though he thinks they are useless, just because it makes you happy.
*He thanks you for making dinner, even when you know it tasted awful.
*He stops to get you tampons or medicine from the store, so you don't have to make a special trip.
*He knows how AND takes the time to give you orgasms.
*He kisses you goodbye when he leaves.
So maybe he sometimes forgets your birthday or anniversary, or doesn't make the biggest deal out of Valentine's Day. Maybe he farts in bed, or feeds the kids too much candy before bedtime. He's not perfect, but neither are you. Romantic gestures don't always have to involve hot air balloons and diamonds. And if you still want or need those things, maybe you should put out the effort. Run a bubble bath and ask him to join you. Turn off the TV, light some candles, and make love on the living room floor. Buy some special oils, and give each other massages. Or just be happy that you have a good partner who loves you, and be grateful for the life you have, and accept that life isn't like the movies.
girl, you better tell us how to accept our husbands as they are!! my hubby does a lot of these things for me, including farting all the time and holding me down so that I can't run away (eye roll), LOL. But just last week I had put a book I wanted in the Amazon cart with the intent to buy it in a few months. A couple of days later, he hands it to me without a word and I absolutely melted. I didn't stay out of his face cooing at how sweet he is for the rest of the day.
ReplyDeleteExcellent article, you make ALL the good points. :)
HAHAHA! Your hubby sounds a lot like mine. Pretty awesome! :) Thanks for reading and sharing, doll!
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