Ladies, if you are single and can't seem to find or keep a man, maybe it's time to stop blaming the guys and start being honest. Maybe the problem isn't with the fellas. Maybe YOU need to work on some things. Here's a basic checklist to see if *possibly* the problem is you.
1. Are you expecting more than you are offering?
For example: Do you expect a man to be gorgeous, physically fit, employed, a home owner, no kids, no baggage, etc? If so, you better take a minute to run through that checklist yourself. Do YOU meet all your own requirements? If not, than why is it ok to expect someone else to?
2. Do you have a romantic notion that life is like the movies?
If you spend all your free time watching romantic comedies and reading romance novels and expect life to be the same, you are insane. Life isn't a movie. The perfect guy probably isn't going to look like Ryan Gosling and write you love songs.
3. Are you realistic in your expectations of a partner?
It's ok to have an idea in mind of what your "perfect" man might be, as long as you understand that he probably doesn't exist. If you spend all your time looking for some unrealistic perfect man, you are going to miss out on some real, genuine good guys. If you are over the age of 16, more than likely anyone you meet will come with some baggage. Guess what? You have some too. No one is perfect, so stop looking for that or you will find yourself alone forever.
4. Are you crazy?
This is where you will need to be VERY honest with yourself. Women have a tendency to overlook a lot of unattractive behaviors or make excuses for them. If you act crazy, you will attract crazy men. If you act trashy, you will attract trashy men. If you act like a crazy, jealous stalker, you will scare men away. Here's a quick crazy test. Go to your social media pages and take a scroll. What do you see? If you are constantly bitching about your ex or being single, causing drama or posting a million duck face photos of yourself, you might be crazy. Get yourself in check.
5. Stop using your past as an excuse.
If every time you meet a new guy you are comparing him to an ex... STOP. Not only is that unfair, but it is inexcusable. Unless you want to be compared to every female he has ever known, knock it off. Your past is your past. Leave it there. Unless you want to continue to make the same mistakes, let it go, move on and start fresh. Remember, YOU made those choices, so you can blame the guys all you want, but if you stayed with a cheater or a loser or an abuser and allowed the behavior to continue, you have to accept some of the blame. That is the harsh truth. If you keep picking the "wrong" guys every time, maybe the problem isn't the guys.
6. Are you overlooking the obvious?
Do you have a male friend that you adore? Do you turn to him each and every time a relationship doesn't work out? Well, unless he's gay or spoken for, maybe it's time you opened your eyes. Stop "friending" every good guy just to continue to date losers. If he treats you well, you have tons in common, and he makes you laugh... he's a catch. One day, some girl is going to snatch him up and you are going to realize what you missed. Maybe it's time to make your "Plan B" your new Plan A.
Bottom line ladies, is that if you want a REAL relationship, then you have to start by being real yourself. If you expect perfection, than you better be offering it. Be honest about who you are and what you expect. Life is enough of a guessing game, relationships shouldn't be. If you want a man to treat you like gold, you better be ready to return the favor. This is a two way street. You need to be willing to give in order to receive. And compromise is key. You aren't always going to get your way. So get your crazy in check and stop giving us ladies a bad name.
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